Lying in bed last night, I was aware of something moving across the ceiling. It was clear that there was spider infestation at my home. This spider was following a line along the outer edge of the roof. I watched as he paused and then scurried off across the roof. It was fascinating to me to watch his movements, so precise and with a purpose.

There are several recessed lights on the ceiling, and he suddenly seemed to notice one of them, paused again and then took a few slow steps towards it and rested alongside the rim. I decided that he had assessed his surroundings and decided that the rim of the light provided good camouflage as he rested. Soon he was off again, veering like a drunkard across the ceiling, running this way and then that, as if he was being chased by ahem a human antagonist. He made it to another of those recessed lights and again rested before scurrying off once more at great speed. I was very aware that his movements were indicative of fear.

It is interesting that a spider will run across the floor as fast as he possibly can because he is¬†afraid of the dangers looming in the form of a human being who is afraid of the spider…and often that human being will say that it is the speed at which a spider moves which creates the greatest fear. It’s a bit of a chicken and egg scenario, and very unfortunate for the spider.

At this point, I switched off the light but couldn’t help thinking about the spider and what his world must be like. And that led me to think about the fact that what a parent can do to help a child overcome his fear of spiders. If your child is has a fear of spiders, no amount of telling him that “he’s small, he’s more afraid of you than you of him” is sufficient to remove that fear. The fear does not spring from logical thought, and so the application of logic will not shift that fear. Fear is fear. Fear is raw emotion. It is a feeling, one who is intense, and it springs automatically from the subconscious mind.

Recently, I called a pest control company near me for advice on how a parent would help their child overcome their fear of spiders.¬† I was told that first they must look to what creates that raw emotion; one must deal with the subconscious patterns of thought from which that emotion flows so easily and dramatically. How do you get into your child’s subconscious mind? The answer is hypnosis.

Hypnosis is a state of relaxation, and you pass through hypnosis every night as you drift off to sleep. While in hypnosis you have access to your subconscious mind, and so old thought patterns and processes can be adjusted. Deep rooted fears can be examined and reworked with the assistance of hypnosis downloads. Hypnosis provides an environment which is ideal for retraining your mind in the resolution of internal conflicts, or in overcoming fears and phobias. Listening to a hypnosis download, can help your child overcome his fear of spiders quickly and easily, in the comfort of your own home.


Parenting is dynamic and keeps changing from one generation to another. The challenges that parents face and the style of parenting that were applied 30 years ago may not be applicable today. The changes are mainly brought about primarily as a result of changes in technology as well as the changes in the societal set up.

With new challenges brought about by new threats such as cyber bullying as a result of exposure of the children to technological devices and increase in internet connectivity, as a parent you have to play a bigger part in keeping your child safe.

Some of the differences of parenting today as compared to 30 years ago include:


These days there is an increased need to keeping your child safe as compared to 30 years ago. This is as a result of increased cases of kidnaps and robberies in neighborhoods. There is a sharp increase in sensitivity to security of your children as compared to 30 years ago when children could comfortably and conveniently play outside up to late evenings before returning to the house.

This has meant that children have had to be monitored more. The alternative has been to provide alternative games for children within the house. This has come with its own concerns as surfing the internet has become an alternative. This means that keeping your child safe from cyber-attacks has become another new concern in this age of parenting.


There has been an increased knowledge and use of different family planning methodologies. This has led to people having increasingly smaller families. As a result the parents are being able to provide a better lifestyle and higher standard of living to the children. The parents are able to take the children to better schools, provide the children with better housing and even more stylish clothes.

This means that the children today are growing up with more confidence and are able to achieve more.


In the past children were mainly guided by the parents on the traditional careers. These areas included law, medicine and engineering. This has since changed as a result of more exposure and the emergence of celebrity culture. These days the parents have been forced to get used to other career preferences that the children have.

These days it is normal to have children whose dreams include becoming painters, musicians, cooks and even professional dancers. As a parent you are expected to be more supportive to the career path your child chooses.


With increased affirmative action and more recognition of the women, it is no longer the days when children used to be told that the father is always the head of the family and the decision the decision he makes concerning the family is final. These days there is more equity in the family and thus you have to train your child the need for consultation within the family before any decision is reached.

Unlike 30 years ago when each gender had its own defined role, there has been a big change these days. This means that as a parent today you have to train your children to do all kinds of work without looking at their gender.